ALTERNATIVES: Crisis Pregnancy Centre in East London. Helps women with regard to pregnancy or pregnancy loss, including abortion

Reg.Charity No. 1103724

Alternatives Crisis Pregnancy Centre, 66 Prince Regent Lane, Plaistow, London E13 8QQ

HOW TO FIND US

Web design by KesherWeb

	Contact us National helpline
Alternatives is a charity based in East London, England. We meet the need for a confidential environment where anyone with a crisis pregnancy can be helped to reach a decision and where their right to choose is respected at all times.

Men and Crisis Pregnancy

You may have just discovered that your partner is pregnant. Whatever she feels about it, it's important for you to know how you feel about it too.

Some men feel positive at first about a pregnancy and the possibility of fatherhood because of what it means to be a man, but then other feelings take over. For some the pressure of circumstances takes over -

maybe you're at university and there's still a long way to go on your course
the relationship isn't strong enough
maybe the responsibility of a child seems overwhelming right now
it's just not what you wanted for your life..............

It's important that you look through the information given on these pages about the options open to you and your partner:

continuing with the pregnancy,
adoption
abortion.

You are entitled to this information so that you and your partner can make an informed choice. Ask yourself the questions given with each option so that you can make up your own mind.

Some men feel left out of the decision making process because pregnancy is to do with a woman's body and it appears to be the woman's choice. But most women are deeply affected by the way their partners respond to the pregnancy.

Supporting your partner......

You may feel relieved that you don't have to make the final decision. Many men say to their partners 'I'll support you whatever you decide.....' This seems to be a loving thing to do but it places the burden on her shoulders at a time when she may be struggling to come to terms with what has happened.

Most women sense what their partners really want and go along with it because they are afraid they will lose the relationship. She needs reassurance that you'll be there for her. She needs to know what you think and feel.

You can support your partner by

reassuring her that you are there for her
not leaving her to make the decision
talking meaningfully together to find out the best way forward for both of you
drawing closer to her rather than pulling away
considering the information on these pages with her seriously
sharing the responsibility for the situation with your partner.

You can visit a pregnancy counselling centre if you need to talk further, either by yourself or with your partner.

Alternatively, you can talk to a trained counsellor confidentially by ringing the national helpline 0800 028 2228

Ring 020 7476 8215 for free test, confidential talk, help, support.